Don't buy the cow. Period.

This is bullshit!

We need, NEED to get away from the idea that sex is something to be traded or sold. Apparently women are only supposed to have sex when it will get us something. Whether it be security in the form of marriage or money from prostitution, we aren't supposed to have sex unless it can be used to our advantage. Sex is not "worth" anything. It's supposed to be shared between two people who really want it. And another thing, I'm so sick and tired of romantic relationships being the most important thing in a girls life. Why do men get to be bachelors and women are old maids?

"I'm just saying women have had extreme successes -- which is fantastic! -- it's just those successes don't translate to success in the relationship field."

Relationships are great. I love being in one but it is not and never will be my whole world. I'm not going to plan my life around getting married or having children. If it happens, if I am so lucky as to find a man with whom I can spend my life, great. If not, I see nothing wrong with my other relationships. I have relationships. We all do. My friends and family are so important to me and I will spend the rest of my life with them. What is it about romantic relationships that are so bloody important? Is it sex? If so then it just furthers my case about lessening our stress on sex in marriage. Lets just all find people we care about to be intimate with and stop caring about the labels!

Feel free to disagree with me. I just think the world would be a better place if we stopped slut shaming our women and started embracing each other as vibrant sexual beings. Without the price tag.

It Gets Worse

So in response to the "It gets better" campaign, The Second City (Who for the record made a great it gets better video by the sassy gay friend) made an "It gets worse" video. It is very funny and So obviously a JOKE! But of course there are some dumbasses on youtube who feel the need to make dumbass comments. Instead of commenting myself, I've decided to be annoyed here, where I'm allowed.

Here's one:
"Nothing like completely over-generalizing all white, straight people. This video is basically reverse-discrimination and I think it is offensive. Yes, many straight people discriminate against people of other sexual orientation and generalize them, but does it really make you feel better to do the same thing back?" - Dumbass Youtube Commenter

To anyone crying reverse discrimination, hate to be the one to break it to you but that's not a real thing. Discrimination is the systematic oppression of one group for the overall benefit of another. We live in a patriarchy and that means Men and heterosexuals are always going to be favored over deviants like women, transsexuals, and homosexuals. So while occasionally a member of the privileged group may be temporarily denied an advantage, it is not discrimination.

Also, this video is talking about high schoolers who are so insecure with their own selves that they lash out against the gay community. It is NOT saying all straight, white men are douchebags. Just the actual douchebags.

Anyway, don't take my word for it. Here's the video. Check it out for yourself!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sJGkPrUOnbA&feature=related

The Tudors

This is a slightly less annoyed post. I love these!

I've begun watching The Tudors and so far I am not disappointed. If you've read The Other Boleyn Girl, you know that sex is just everywhere. King Henry VIII had lots and lots and lots of sex. And good sex for that matter. There was a saying to encourage wives to submit to sex with husbands they didn't love and who didn't think to please them. Women were told to "Lie back and think of England." Well these women with Henry seem to being having a wonderful time in bed and not in a faking orgasm type way.

But that's not why I'm writing about it. So this chick, Bessie Blount, was one of the kings mistresses. There's a scene in which Bessie comes into Henry's room and as he begins to touch her he asks, "Do you consent?" To which she breathes, "Yes, Majesty." Then he rips off her clothes. I must admit I creamed my jeans a little at this. Nothing sexier than a man who asks first, yea?

Second was Henry's friend is caught having sex with the daughter of a powerful man in court. He runs to the King and demands punishment for the man who ruined his daughters honor. Henry says there will be no punishment unless the daughter cries rape. I swoon! Now I may be ignorant but I'm not sure they took rape too seriously back then. Now I may be giving the show too much credit, but for me this scene here tells me that if this woman had cried rape, there is a chance that Henry would have taken her seriously.

Come to think of it I feel like rape would have been a huge issue amongst women of important families. Virginity was such a commodity that if it was stolen, it would be a great grievance to the family already unfortunate enough to include daughters.

So yes, I think I'll stick with this show for a while.